I was just reading in our local newspaper an article about the benefits to both caregivers and their loved ones if traditional holiday festivities are tempered by more simplicity and fewer commitments. People everywhere are overwhelmed and over-wrought..and these frustrations create, for the “loved one(s)”, a sense of anxiety that may not be not identifiable. For some households, dementia has come uninvited and everyday compromises are a fact of life.
As is the case with anyone whose finances may be so meager that there is simply not enough for the basics of living, a sense of helplessness and hopelessness can be pervasive. Solutions are just not recognizable and the feeling of being mired down is totally suffocating. Caregivers who are also suffering the woes of coping know that even tidbits of relief are truly valuable.
Last evening, with the tree up and soft Christmas music playing, my loved one was humming along to familiar carols and classics of yesteryear. I had a couple of pillar candles, in tall glass cylinders, on the mantle – the atmosphere was peaceful and content. Out of the blue came a real zinger….an observation that “the catholics are lit up”! It was absolutely a hilarious moment which will be treasured forever .
Don’t be a fool this Yule – do what you can, enjoy what you have, and know that as the weeks ahead pass Springtime , with all its possibilities, will certainly bring fresh insights and outlooks . Love yourself, love your friends – however few or many they may number, and feel amazed again when you imagine jingle bells.